Wednesday, November 01, 2006
posted by PabloPabla at 5:05 pm

What is this world turning into?

It has just been reported by The Star that a 17 year old teenager had raped a 75 year old grandmother whilst under the influence of tapai (rice wine). The police even found 2 homemade shot guns in the teenager's house. It was also reported that the teenager is a school-dropout.

Further down the report, it was also reported that in another incident 2 teenagers (aged 16 and 17) were charged in a magistrates court for raping a 32 year old woman.

A couple of weeks back, when I was in the Seremban Sessions Court, a youth was also charged for raping a girl aged 14 or so (if I remembered the age correctly). That was my first experience of hearing someone being charged for rape in a court. I don't deal with criminal matters. So, I don't get "exposed" to these charges being read out. But as the charge was read out to the youth, I can't feel but rage swelling within me at what the youth had done to the minor. I had wanted to leave my seat, go to the youth and give him a good walloping! I know that he is innocent until proven guilty but most lawyers know that people do not simply get charged unless there were pretty strong evidence of culpability in the first place. In the end, I remained at my seat and wondered what is wrong.

A few question arises from the above cases:-

1) If the teenager is a school-dropout, does his parents or guardian knows what the teenager is up to during the day or at night?

2) How is it that the teenager has access to tapai? Did he steal it from home or something?

3) How did the teenager become tempted to rape someone?

4) How did 2 teenagers become so bold as to commit gang rape without fearing the consequences?

5) Why are rape cases so common / frequent these days and the perpertrators are as young as the teenagers above?

I am sure there are many more questions out there. Obviously, there must be something wrong with the upbringing of the suspects. The suspects are not the only ones to be blamed but the parents or guardians may have to shoulder some responsibility.

Moral values are out of fashion nowadays. Sex is okay. In fact, it is becoming more and more common amongst teenagers to indulge in some form of sex. The media is laced with sexual innuendos. Everyone is bombarded with sex in every form and kind. Just look at those beer advertisements and see how women are being potrayed.

Rather than taking a tough stand and say "Pre-marital sex is NOT OKAY. Full stop", some have given way-outs such as "If you have to do it, use a condom". On November 18, 2005, Deputy Finance Minister Dr. Ng Yen Yen was quoted by papers to have advised her 19 year old son to use a condom just before her son went overseas to study. I told him that I was not condoning him having premarital sex but just think of it as protection. I said as a mother, I would cry if you get AIDS,” she said. I was flabbergasted when I read that piece of news.

My firm deals with divorce cases once a while. In fact, the number of cases referred to us are increasing over the years. Most of these cases are due to adultery. Do you think it is just committed by the husbands? No. There are also many cases where the husbands discovered that their wives committed adultery. The couple breaks-up and their children suffer the consequences. And what would the parent tell the child? That daddy or mommy had an affair?

It is time that people take stock of their life and look around themselves. Are we cheating on our spouses? Are we lying to our parents? Are we living a life of good moral values or are we just succumbing to the temptations of the world? Is life really meant to be lived as how we are living now? Are we spending so much time at work that we do not really know what our children are doing? Are we neglecting our loved ones with the many activities we deem more important to our lives? Are these activities really more important than our loved ones?

I leave those questions to you to ponder...

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At 5:56 pm, Blogger 5xmom

Glad to hear of another parent's concerns. It is a crazy world out there and the only assurance I get is the religious foundation that I tried hard to instil in my kids. Tough being a parent now cos need to tell the kids not only about the birds & bee but statutory rape, paedophile, same sex relation etc etc. *sigh*


At 5:58 pm, Blogger PabloPabla

That is what our Lord is telling us to do.


At 7:19 pm, Blogger Paris Beaverbanks

Whats the world coming to?! This sorta links back to your previous post. Taking time to instill a sense of responsibility and discipline in children should make them better adults or teens.


At 11:34 pm, Anonymous Liew

Almost as bad as this case of this kid raping his mother.


At 10:05 am, Blogger PabloPabla

paris : You said it right, paris! Many parents / guardians leave the parenting to others- maids, Astro, nursery, teachers etc without realising that parenting is the parent's job.

liew : All these cases are bad.


At 9:44 pm, Anonymous Nizam Bashir

Dear PB2,

Ahem...just thought I'd point out that, irrespective of one personal beliefs in this matter, consensual sex with an underaged girl is statutory rape under the law. So the youth that was accused of 'raping' the 14 year old girl may have had consensual sex with the girl.

As for your lament in the decline of moral values of society, there are a number of factors. Both parents working, parents not bothered to practice and/or inculcate moral values etc, mobility of youths i.e. from villages -> towns. Banyak faktor da ... :)


At 8:59 am, Blogger PabloPabla

nizam : LOL! Thanks for reminding me about the statutory rape thingy!